Quotes & Sayings


We, and creation itself, actualize the possibilities of the God who sustains the world, towards becoming in the world in a fuller, more deeper way. - R.E. Slater

There is urgency in coming to see the world as a web of interrelated processes of which we are integral parts, so that all of our choices and actions have [consequential effects upon] the world around us. - Process Metaphysician Alfred North Whitehead

Kurt Gödel's Incompleteness Theorem says (i) all closed systems are unprovable within themselves and, that (ii) all open systems are rightly understood as incomplete. - R.E. Slater

The most true thing about you is what God has said to you in Christ, "You are My Beloved." - Tripp Fuller

The God among us is the God who refuses to be God without us, so great is God's Love. - Tripp Fuller

According to some Christian outlooks we were made for another world. Perhaps, rather, we were made for this world to recreate, reclaim, redeem, and renew unto God's future aspiration by the power of His Spirit. - R.E. Slater

Our eschatological ethos is to love. To stand with those who are oppressed. To stand against those who are oppressing. It is that simple. Love is our only calling and Christian Hope. - R.E. Slater

Secularization theory has been massively falsified. We don't live in an age of secularity. We live in an age of explosive, pervasive religiosity... an age of religious pluralism. - Peter L. Berger

Exploring the edge of life and faith in a post-everything world. - Todd Littleton

I don't need another reason to believe, your love is all around for me to see. – Anon

Thou art our need; and in giving us more of thyself thou givest us all. - Khalil Gibran, Prayer XXIII

Be careful what you pretend to be. You become what you pretend to be. - Kurt Vonnegut

Religious beliefs, far from being primary, are often shaped and adjusted by our social goals. - Jim Forest

We become who we are by what we believe and can justify. - R.E. Slater

People, even more than things, need to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone. – Anon

Certainly, God's love has made fools of us all. - R.E. Slater

An apocalyptic Christian faith doesn't wait for Jesus to come, but for Jesus to become in our midst. - R.E. Slater

Christian belief in God begins with the cross and resurrection of Jesus, not with rational apologetics. - Eberhard Jüngel, Jürgen Moltmann

Our knowledge of God is through the 'I-Thou' encounter, not in finding God at the end of a syllogism or argument. There is a grave danger in any Christian treatment of God as an object. The God of Jesus Christ and Scripture is irreducibly subject and never made as an object, a force, a power, or a principle that can be manipulated. - Emil Brunner

“Ehyeh Asher Ehyeh” means "I will be that who I have yet to become." - God (Ex 3.14) or, conversely, “I AM who I AM Becoming.”

Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. - Thomas Merton

The church is God's world-changing social experiment of bringing unlikes and differents to the Eucharist/Communion table to share life with one another as a new kind of family. When this happens, we show to the world what love, justice, peace, reconciliation, and life together is designed by God to be. The church is God's show-and-tell for the world to see how God wants us to live as a blended, global, polypluralistic family united with one will, by one Lord, and baptized by one Spirit. – Anon

The cross that is planted at the heart of the history of the world cannot be uprooted. - Jacques Ellul

The Unity in whose loving presence the universe unfolds is inside each person as a call to welcome the stranger, protect animals and the earth, respect the dignity of each person, think new thoughts, and help bring about ecological civilizations. - John Cobb & Farhan A. Shah

If you board the wrong train it is of no use running along the corridors of the train in the other direction. - Dietrich Bonhoeffer

God's justice is restorative rather than punitive; His discipline is merciful rather than punishing; His power is made perfect in weakness; and His grace is sufficient for all. – Anon

Our little [biblical] systems have their day; they have their day and cease to be. They are but broken lights of Thee, and Thou, O God art more than they. - Alfred Lord Tennyson

We can’t control God; God is uncontrollable. God can’t control us; God’s love is uncontrolling! - Thomas Jay Oord

Life in perspective but always in process... as we are relational beings in process to one another, so life events are in process in relation to each event... as God is to Self, is to world, is to us... like Father, like sons and daughters, like events... life in process yet always in perspective. - R.E. Slater

To promote societal transition to sustainable ways of living and a global society founded on a shared ethical framework which includes respect and care for the community of life, ecological integrity, universal human rights, respect for diversity, economic justice, democracy, and a culture of peace. - The Earth Charter Mission Statement

Christian humanism is the belief that human freedom, individual conscience, and unencumbered rational inquiry are compatible with the practice of Christianity or even intrinsic in its doctrine. It represents a philosophical union of Christian faith and classical humanist principles. - Scott Postma

It is never wise to have a self-appointed religious institution determine a nation's moral code. The opportunities for moral compromise and failure are high; the moral codes and creeds assuredly racist, discriminatory, or subjectively and religiously defined; and the pronouncement of inhumanitarian political objectives quite predictable. - R.E. Slater

God's love must both center and define the Christian faith and all religious or human faiths seeking human and ecological balance in worlds of subtraction, harm, tragedy, and evil. - R.E. Slater

In Whitehead’s process ontology, we can think of the experiential ground of reality as an eternal pulse whereby what is objectively public in one moment becomes subjectively prehended in the next, and whereby the subject that emerges from its feelings then perishes into public expression as an object (or “superject”) aiming for novelty. There is a rhythm of Being between object and subject, not an ontological division. This rhythm powers the creative growth of the universe from one occasion of experience to the next. This is the Whiteheadian mantra: “The many become one and are increased by one.” - Matthew Segall

Without Love there is no Truth. And True Truth is always Loving. There is no dichotomy between these terms but only seamless integration. This is the premier centering focus of a Processual Theology of Love. - R.E. Slater

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Note: Generally I do not respond to commentary. I may read the comments but wish to reserve my time to write (or write from the comments I read). Instead, I'd like to see our community help one another and in the helping encourage and exhort each of us towards Christian love in Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior. - re slater

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Sunday, October 12, 2025

Disturbing the Theological Certainties of Anti-LGBTQ Biblical Literalism



Holiness Without Love
Is No Holiness at All

Disturbing the Theological Certainties
of Anti-LGBTQ Biblical Literalism

by R.E. Slater & ChatGPT-5

© R.E. Slater
A Companion Essay to “Transgender Identity:
© R.E. Slater - All rights reserved.


✍️ Preface: When Holiness Becomes a Wall

Across the contemporary landscape of the Christian church, a deep fracture has widened — one between those who believe Scripture must remain untouched by modern insight and those who believe love must remain the measure of truth. In this fracture, countless lives — especially those of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people — have been caught, bruised, and exiled.

This essay is written as an act of conscience and hope: not to destroy the Bible’s authority, but to reclaim its heart from those who have used the bible to wound and harm others.

In many churches today, holiness has been weaponized — it has been turned from a symbol of divine compassion into a border of purity and fear. The phrase “love the sinner, hate the sin” has become a moral shield for cruelty. Beneath its piety lies a refusal to see others as equals in divine dignity.

The first purpose of this essay, then, is humanistic: to defend the psychological, legal, and moral worth of LGBTQ+ people against doctrines that deny their humanity. It is written from the conviction that human dignity precedes theology, that love cannot be postponed until the church feels ready to extend it, and that holiness divorced from empathy is not holy at all.

But the second purpose is theological — to reveal that love is not the opposite of holiness, but its truest expression because it is it's truest foundation. From a process-theological view, the divine is not an unmoved judge but a living presence within all relational becoming, luring creation toward deeper compassion and harmony. Every act of love widens that divine movement; every act of rejection resists it.

> To affirm LGBTQ+ dignity is not to betray God, but to participate in God’s ongoing creation.

> To cling to exclusion in God’s name is not holiness — it is idolatry.


I. The False Binary of “Holiness vs. Love”

Evangelical theology often insists that love without moral purity is sentimentalism, while holiness without compromise is virtue. This logic divides God into parts — as though the divine could be loving or holy, but not both at once.

In the Hebrew and Christian Scriptures, love is the essence of holiness. The prophets repeatedly define holiness not by separation from sinners but by justice, mercy, and care for the oppressed.

“Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free?” — Isaiah 58:6

Jesus, in turn, lived a holiness that touched what was forbidden — the bleeding woman, the Samaritan, the tax collector, the leper, and yes, the sexual and social outcast. He did not preserve purity; he embodied love.

To call queer and trans lives “unholy” is not to protect divine truth — it is to invert the gospel.

Love that heals and includes is the holiness of God.


II. Literalism as Idolatry

Biblical literalism is not ancient; it is modern and manufactured. It arose in the 19th century as a reaction to scientific discovery, biblical scholarship, and cultural change. It claims divine certainty while practicing human fear.

Literalists read the Bible not as a dynamic witness to evolving revelation, but as a static codebook. They cherry-pick verses that reinforce hierarchy while ignoring those that subvert it. Leviticus 18 becomes sacred law, but Leviticus 19’s call to economic justice and love of neighbor becomes “cultural.”

Literalism’s true danger is not ignorance — it is idolatry. It makes an idol of the text and calls it God.

“If your reading of Scripture cannot grow in love, it has ceased to be a living word and has become a graven image.”

Faith is not fidelity to words frozen in time; it is fidelity to the divine life still unfolding through them.


III. Recovering the Inclusive Scripture We Lost

The exclusion of LGBTQ+ people rests on selective blindness. The Bible, read through lenses of purity, looks narrow. Read through lenses of love, it is expansive and alive.

Consider the eunuchs — gender-diverse people of antiquity who appear repeatedly in Scripture:

  • In Isaiah 56, God promises that eunuchs who keep the covenant will receive “a name better than sons and daughters.”

  • Jesus acknowledges them in Matthew 19:12, implicitly honoring those whose bodies and lives defied social norms.

  • Philip baptizes an Ethiopian eunuch in Acts 8 — an outsider made the first non-Jewish Christian convert.

These stories were not accidents; they were early affirmations of gender variance as compatible with divine calling.

And Paul’s proclamation — “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28) — is a cosmic abolition of exclusion, a declaration that divine relationship transcends every human division.

The inclusive heart of the gospel is not an innovation of modern liberalism; it is its original pulse.


IV. When “Holiness” Masks Power

In every era, religion has sanctified control. Under “holiness,” churches have justified slavery, racial segregation, patriarchy, and colonialism. Today, anti-LGBTQ theologies are simply the latest form of that pattern — holiness used as an unholy fortress for power.

This dynamic is not new. Jesus confronted it in his own day:

“You tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on the shoulders of others, but you yourselves are unwilling to lift a finger.” — Matthew 23:4

  • The holiness of the Pharisees was separation. The holiness of Jesus was solidarity.
  • The holiness of empire is dominance. The holiness of love is liberation.

The “holy” condemnation of queer and trans people is thus not holiness at all; it is empire theology dressed in sacred language.


V. The Living Law of Love

In Mark 2:27, Jesus reinterprets Torah itself:

“The Sabbath was made for humankind, not humankind for the Sabbath.”

Law exists to serve life, not the other way around.

When a biblical teaching harms, silences, or drives people to despair, the problem is not the person — it is the interpretation. The Spirit that animated Scripture still speaks, and its voice sounds like love.

“You search the Scriptures because you think that in them you have eternal life, but it is they that testify on my behalf.” — John 5:39–40

Love is not optional or secondary. It is the hermeneutic key by which all Scripture must be read. Any doctrine that destroys the beloved is unfaithful to Christ.


VI. The Cost of Bad Theology

The damage of exclusionary theology is measurable and devastating:

  • LGBTQ+ youth who grow up in churches which reject them face exponentially higher suicide risk.

  • Families are torn apart by shame disguised as righteousness.

  • Communities become echo chambers of fear rather than compassion.

  • The moral credibility of Christianity collapses before a watching world.

  • Every sermon that condemns queer and trans lives wounds the body of Christ itself.

A faith that drives people to despair cannot be holy.
A church that exiles its children cannot be the family of God.

Bad theology kills. But good theology heals. And good theology always begins in love.


VII. The Idolatry of Certainty

Literalism masquerades as faith, but it is fear: the fear that if our interpretations change, God will change with them — and we will lose both God, self, and faith.

But the living God is change — not chaos, but creative transformation. Process theology reminds us that God is not an unmoved mover but a co-suffering companion, feeling with the world, evolving with its pain and joy.

To cling to certainty is to cling to control. But to let love lead is to trust the living God more than our frozen doctrines.

“When your faith can no longer grow, it is not faith but nostalgia.”

The church’s nostalgia for a perfect, unchanging moral order is a denial of the Spirit’s motion in time.


VIII. A Better Vision: Holiness as Relationship

What would it look like for holiness to be redefined not as moral separation but as relational integrity — the fullness of right relationship between God, self, and others?

In that vision:

  • Holiness is compassion lived courageously.

  • Love is justice embodied in relationship.

  • Faith is trust in divine becoming, not retreat into divine distance.

The holiness of Christ is not purity of separation but presence in love.

The holiness of the Spirit is not rigidity but renewal.

The holiness of the Creator is not judgment but the perpetual invitation to co-create a better world.

When churches learn this, they will finally become what they claim to be — communities of grace, not gatekeepers of fear.


IX. The Theological Core

God is not the guardian of our exclusions. God is the relentless presence within what we have excluded.

God’s holiness is not about keeping the unworthy out; it is about bringing the rejected home. Wherever human beings have drawn lines in the name of purity, God has crossed them in the name of love.


X. Conclusion: The Door in the Wall

When Jesus stood at the margins, it was not because he despised the center. It was because God dwells where love is most needed.

The church has chosen the center for too long.
Holiness has become a wall.
Love must make "holiness" a living, loving door.

May this essay disturb the certainties of those who mistake fear for faith and purity for holiness.

May it awaken in us the courage to read Scripture as a living word, to see love as the final law, and to welcome every human being as a bearer of divine image.

For holiness without love is no holiness at all —
it is merely pride in religious disguise.


Below are the drafts for Appendix A (Robert S. Smith) and Appendix B (Gospel Coalition & Similar Movements). Both are structured to parallel the tone of the main essay: thoughtful, firm, and theologically articulate — not reactive or shrill.


Appendix A: Engaging Robert S. Smith’s "The Body God Gives "(2024)

Robert S. Smith’s book The Body God Gives: A Biblical Response to Transgender Theory is one of the more systematic conservative attempts to ground Christian ethics regarding gender in the belief that biological sex determines gender identity. It seeks to provide a “biblical anthropology” to resist what the author perceives as cultural relativism in discussions of gender.

This appendix offers a constructive theological response to the major claims of Smith’s book, showing why such a framework is both biblically limited and theologically harmful, and how a more faithful reading of Scripture and tradition calls us toward love, dignity, and relational holiness.


1. On Biblical Literalism and Hermeneutical Control

Smith’s argument relies on the assumption that the plain reading of Scripture reflects God’s immutable will for gender and sexuality. This assumption:

  • Ignores the historical development of biblical interpretation and the cultural specificity of texts.

  • Fails to recognize that “plain reading” is always an interpreted reading, mediated through modern assumptions.

  • Positions Scripture as a static codebook rather than a living witness to divine revelation.

A process-relational hermeneutic insists that God’s Word must be read through the lens of love and evolving human understanding. Jesus himself reinterpreted Torah in the service of human flourishing (e.g., Mark 2:27), demonstrating that Scripture is meant to serve life, not entomb it.


2. On the “Sexed Body” as Determinative

Smith argues that God created the body as male or female and that this biological sex must ground gender identity. This view collapses:

  • biological sex (a spectrum in reality),

  • gender identity (a psychological and experiential dimension),

  • and gender expression (a cultural and social practice)
    into a single, rigid binary.

This not only contradicts contemporary scientific and psychological understanding, but also flattens the diversity of embodiment reflected across cultures and history (refer to my first essay: Transgender Identity, by re slater)

Biblical narratives themselves include gender-variant figures (e.g., eunuchs), whose inclusion in God’s covenant disrupts simplistic binaries. Isaiah 56, Matthew 19:12, and Acts 8 reveal that God’s covenant expands beyond the body’s assigned social role.


3. On Creation Theology and “God’s Design”

Smith appeals to Genesis 1–2 as proof that male and female are fixed categories representing divine design. But:

  • These texts are mythopoetic, not anatomical manuals.

  • Genesis presents a theological vision of relationality and shared dignity, not a technical blueprint for immutable gender roles.

  • Throughout Scripture, God’s action is characterized by surprising expansions of covenant — Rahab, Ruth, eunuchs, Gentiles, women apostles — not by static enforcement of original categories.

Appeals to “God’s design” often confuse creation order with cultural order, sacralizing human norms rather than divine relational creativity.


4. On the Authority of Experience

Smith downplays transgender experiences as subjective feelings in tension with divine reality. But Christian theology has long recognized that human experience is one locus of revelation (Wesleyan quadrilateral; liberation theology; feminist and womanist theology).

Experience does not overrule Scripture — but neither may Scripture be interpreted against the lived dignity of human beings without betraying its own witness to love and justice.

“Where theology refuses to listen to human pain, it has ceased to speak for God.”


5. On Pastoral Harm and Responsibility

Smith frames his argument as “compassionate,” but the theological system it defends has historically led to:

  • rejection of trans people from churches,

  • spiritual trauma,

  • loss of family, housing, and safety,

  • elevated suicide and mental health crises.

Pastoral compassion without theological transformation is sentimentality. Real compassion demands a rethinking of exclusionary doctrines in light of love, justice, and the evolving understanding of creation.


6. On Love as the Hermeneutic Center

Smith’s framework subordinates love to holiness, treating holiness as doctrinal fidelity. A Christological hermeneutic does the opposite:

  • Love is the criterion by which holiness is recognized.

  • Any theology that harms must be re-examined in light of Jesus’ own practice of boundary-crossing love.

  • The gospel is measured not by how well it enforces purity, but by how fully it enacts grace.

“God is not the guardian of our exclusions. God is the relentless presence within what we have excluded.”


Summary


Smith’s book represents a well-organized articulation of an old framework: fixed gender binaries, rigid biblical literalism, and holiness defined as exclusion. The present essay  above challenges that entire framework at its theological roots. These six points can be used for teaching, debate preparation, or theological dialogue in church settings.


Appendix B: Responding to The Gospel Coalition and Related Networks

The Gospel Coalition (TGC) and affiliated organizations — including CBMW (Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood), various Reformed networks, and conservative evangelical seminaries — are among the most influential voices shaping anti-LGBTQ+ theology in North America and beyond.

Their influence lies less in scholarly originality and more in amplifying and normalizing exclusionary theology through media, conferences, and pastoral training.

This appendix outlines key patterns of argument used by these groups and how the main essay offers a theological counter-framework.


1. Biblical Inerrancy as Weaponized Certainty

TGC treats its interpretation of Scripture as objective truth, framing disagreement as rebellion against God rather than hermeneutical difference. This rhetorical move:

  • Delegitimizes other Christian traditions,

  • Shields itself from critique,

  • Creates a false binary between faithfulness and compromise.

Response: Theological authority does not arise from unchangeable interpretation but from fidelity to the living Word revealed in love. As Jesus reinterpreted Torah for the sake of mercy, so must the church today.


2. Purity Culture and Gender Essentialism

TGC builds much of its theology on creation-order complementarianism — asserting fixed male and female roles as divinely mandated. This framework:

  • Overlooks cultural contingency in biblical texts,

  • Ignores gender diversity in Scripture,

  • Tethers holiness to conformity, not relationship.

Response: This is a theology of boundary policing, not Christic love. The gospel narrative repeatedly collapses such boundaries — in Jesus’ ministry, in Paul’s radical equality statements, and in the Spirit’s unpredictable inclusion of outsiders.


3. Misuse of Pastoral Language

TGC often couches exclusion in terms of “love and truth” — claiming to love queer and trans people while denying their dignity. This is a theological sleight of hand: love without inclusion is not love, it is church-language for the tolerance of it's harm and suffering placed upon unloved congregants and outsiders to their church organization.

Response: Genuine pastoral care must center the actual flourishing of the person, not their compliance with ideology. Christ’s love meets people as they are, not as dogma demands they be.


4. Framing Affirmation as Rebellion

TGC portrays affirming theology as capitulation to secularism. This framing assumes:

  • God cannot speak through new knowledge or human experience,

  • Tradition (and divine Revelation) is a closed, fixed system,

  • The Spirit no longer moves beyond inherited boundaries.

Response: Affirming LGBTQ+ dignity is not rebellion; it is a continuation of the biblical pattern of radical inclusion — akin to the church’s expansion to Gentiles, its dismantling of slavery, and its ongoing work against patriarchy and racism.


5. The Narrative of Cultural Decline

Many TGC leaders frame LGBTQ+ inclusion as a sign of societal moral decay. But this narrative:

  • Reflects cultural anxiety, not biblical insight,

  • Confuses Western Christendom with the gospel itself,

  • Projects fear rather than faith.

  • Shows the moral decay rampant within the church itself

Response: Fearful theology always tries to preserve control. But the God of Scripture calls people out of fear into courageous love. The future of faith is not threatened by inclusion — it is strengthened and renewed through it.


6. Reclaiming Holiness as Love

TGC theology hinges on holiness as separation. The counter-witness of Jesus is holiness as radical proximity.

  • He touched the untouchable.

  • He welcomed those purity systems rejected.

  • He broke Sabbath rules to heal.

This is not the abandonment of holiness. It is its truest expression.

“The church has chosen the exclusionary center for too long. Holiness has become a wall. Love will make it a door.”


Summary

The Gospel Coalition and similar groups sustain a networked theology of exclusion under the banner of “faithfulness.” This essay intends to disrupt this humanized architecture by:

  • Reframing holiness as love,

  • Exposing the idolatry of certainty,

  • Reclaiming Scripture as a living word,

  • Affirming the dignity of all bodies.

This appendix can serve as a resource for pastors, theologians, and discussion groups who need concise counterpoints to TGC narratives.


📚 Suggested Reading & References for Further Development

  • Megan DeFranza, Sex Difference in Christian Theology

  • Patrick Cheng, Radical Love

  • James Brownson, Bible, Gender, Sexuality

  • Karen Baker-Fletcher, Dancing with God

  • Catherine Keller, On the Mystery

  • Marjorie Hewitt Suchocki, God, Christ, Church

  • Lisa Isherwood & Marcella Althaus-Reid, Trans/formations

  • Rowan Williams, The Body’s Grace


Transgender Identity: Toward Healthy and Holistic Relationship

Transgender Identity:
Toward Healthy and Holistic Relationship

by R.E. Slater & ChatGPT-5

© R.E. Slater
A Companion Essay to "Disturbing the Theological
© R.E. Slater - All rights reserved.


A Twofold Preface

Quantum Humanitarian Outreach & Theological Witness

Across the world, transgender people are facing escalating discrimination, state-sanctioned intolerance, and the weaponization of identity. Behind these injustices are not abstractions but human lives — lives capable of joy, creativity, and contribution, yet too often met with rejection and fear.

This essay emerges as an act of quantum humanitarian outreach — recognizing that human dignity is not a zero-sum game, but a shared field of becoming. Just as a single movement at the quantum level can ripple through an entire system, so too can a single gesture of respect, solidarity, or courage reshape communities.

Transgender dignity is not a “special interest.” It is a measure of the moral health of a society. Where intolerance is permitted against one, the ground weakens beneath us all. Where compassion expands, so too does the possibility of a future in which diversity is understood not as a threat but as a source of shared strength. This essay, therefore, is both an analysis and an invitation: to listen, to learn, and to help build a world capacious enough for every person to live openly and without fear.

Bridging these worlds - the humanitarian and the theological - matters. For if human dignity is indivisible, it is also sacred. Every encounter with another person is not just a social fact but a moral moment, a threshold where we either expand or diminish the common good.

For people of faith, the call is even deeper. The heart of every living religious tradition contains some version of this truth: the sacred is revealed in the dignity of the other. Transgender people are not outside that sacred story — they are part of it.

To speak of their dignity is to bear witness to the God who is found not in fear or control, but in relationship, incarnation, and love. It is to proclaim, against centuries of misused scripture and weaponized doctrine, that faith is not a tool of domination but a summons to solidarity.

In a Whiteheadian process framework, the divine is not static or distant, but present and evolving within the fabric of creation — luring us toward greater love, wider community, and deeper care. To deny the dignity of any person is to resist that divine lure. To affirm it is to join in God’s ongoing work of creative transformation.

This essay, then, is also a theological act: a refusal to let intolerance and hate speak in the name of the sacred, and a declaration that God’s presence is found wherever human dignity is upheld. To affirm transgender people is not to stray from faith — it is to fulfill its truest calling.


I. Introduction: Meeting Others in Our Shared Humanity

There is something profoundly human about meeting someone where they are — not as an idea, not as a category, but as a person. To speak of transgender identity is not to speak of an abstract debate or a medical code, but of real people whose lives, loves, and longings are as deep and complex as anyone’s.

Transgender people have always existed. They have lived quietly in some cultures, openly in others, and too often have borne the weight of misunderstanding or hostility. In recent decades, language and frameworks — legal, medical, cultural, and theological — have begun to catch up to lived reality.

This essay expands upon three core frameworks, each progressively replacing the other:

  • (March 2018) DSM-5-TR (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), which currently uses the category “Gender Dysphoria.”

  • (May 2019) ICD-11 (International Classification of Diseases), which uses “Gender Incongruence” and removes transgender identity from the category of mental disorders.

  • (September 2022) WPATH SOC-8 (World Professional Association for Trans-gender Health: Standards of Care), which sets forth a human rights–based, informed-consent model of transgender identity acceptance and care.

But beyond frameworks, the heart of this essay is about relationship — how we as individuals, families, communities, and societies can cultivate healthy, holistic, and enduring bonds with transgender people. To do so is to practice human decency; to do so well is to practice love.


II. Understanding Transgender Identity

A. Defining the Terms

  • (Biological) Sex refers to biological characteristics (e.g., chromosomes, reproductive organs, hormonal profiles) assigned at birth.

  • (Psychological, Neurocognitive) Gender identity refers to a person’s deeply felt inner sense of their gender self-awareness — whether man, woman, both, neither, or somewhere in between.

  • (Psychological, Social, Cultural) Gender expression refers to the outward ways people communicate their gender self-awareness (e.g., clothing, voice, mannerisms, names, pronouns).

Someone is transgender when their gender identity differs from their assigned sex at birth. Someone is cisgender when it aligns. Neither identity is pathological. Both are simply part of the human spectrum of embodiment and experience via their neurocognitive development and the complex interactions between their biology, psyche, and the received environment.


B. Historical and Cultural Continuity

1. “Gender diversity” has existed throughout human history

Many societies — across continents and eras — have recognized more than just two genders (male and female) or have allowed gender roles to be more fluid than what we often see in modern Western contexts. Examples include:

  • Two-Spirit identities in many pre-colonial Indigenous North American cultures.

  • Hijra communities in South Asia (recognized for centuries, with legal standing in some pre-colonial kingdoms).

  • Kathoey in Thailand, Bakla in the Philippines, Fa’afafine in Samoa.

  • Galli priesthoods in ancient Rome dedicated to Cybele, where gender-variant people held religious authority.

  • Androgynous or third-gender deities in Mesopotamian, Egyptian, and Greco-Roman traditions.

🧭 These examples show that gender variance was normal, acknowledged, and often socially integrated long before the modern West came to dominate global discourse.


2. “Western colonial modernity” refers to a specific historical project

From roughly the 16th to 20th centuries, European colonialism spread not only economic and political control but also social and cultural frameworks — including very rigid ideas about binary gender and heterosexual norms.

This happened through:

  • Christian missionary work that condemned gender variance as “sinful” or “unnatural.”

  • European legal systems imposed on colonized peoples, criminalizing trans and queer lives.

  • Medicalization and pathologization of gender variance in 19th–20th century Western science.

  • Cultural erasure: Indigenous languages, cosmologies, and gender categories were suppressed or outlawed.

👉 In other words: the strict “male vs. female only” binary that we often treat as “normal” today is not ancient or universal — it is largely a modern Western colonial export.


3. “Historically anomalous” means “the exception, not the rule”

The sentence is saying:

It’s not gender diversity that is unusual or new — it’s the Western binary system that is historically abnormal compared to the rest of human history.

For most of the world’s cultures and most of human time, gender diversity was present in some form.
What’s exceptional — and damaging — is how modern Western systems suppressed that diversity through law, religion, and social norms.


4. Why this context matters

When people claim “transgender identity is new,” “invented,” or “a modern fad,” this history shows the opposite:

  • Transgender and gender-diverse people have existed across time and culture.

  • What’s “new” is the Western enforcement of binary gender and the colonial erasure of other systems.

  • So affirming gender diversity today isn’t introducing something alien — it’s recovering something ancient and human.

This is especially relevant for faith communities, governments, and social movements: it reframes the narrative from “this is something we’re being forced to accept now” to “this is something our ancestors accepted long before colonialism narrowed our imagination.”


In short:

  • Transgender and gender-diverse identities are old.
  • The strict gender binary is what’s new.
  • And it was spread globally through Western colonial power,
  • not through some timeless moral law.

III. Medical Frameworks: From Pathology to Affirmation

Medical frameworks shape legal rights, insurance access, and social perception. It is crucial to understand how they’ve changed.

A. (March 2018) DSM-5-TR: Gender Dysphoria

In older DSM editions, transgender people were labeled as having “Gender Identity Disorder” (GID), pathologizing their very existence. DSM-5 (2013) and DSM-5-TR (2022) replaced GID with “Gender Dysphoria.”

The new framing:

  • Does not consider being transgender a mental disorder.

  • Focuses on the distress some may experience when gender identity and assigned sex do not align.

  • Allows for medical access when distress is present.

Not all transgender people experience distress, and not all need or want medical intervention. For those who do, this diagnostic language is often a gateway to care, not a judgment of identity.


B. (May 2019) ICD-11: Gender Incongruence

The World Health Organization’s ICD-11 (2022) goes further:

  • Removes transgender identity from the mental disorders chapter.

  • Places “Gender Incongruence” in the sexual health section.

  • Does not require distress for classification.

This reflects a global consensus: being transgender is not a disease. The ICD aims to facilitate access to affirming care while depathologizing identity.


C. (September 2022) WPATH SOC-8: Standards of Care

The WPATH SOC-8 (2022) is a cornerstone document for clinicians worldwide. It:

  • Affirms gender diversity as part of human diversity.

  • Grounds care in human rights and informed consent.

  • Recognizes that transition is individual, not one-size-fits-all.

  • Removes unnecessary gatekeeping for adults seeking care.

  • Includes pathways for social, hormonal, and surgical transition, but does not prescribe them as universal.

  • Expands protections and care for adolescents and nonbinary individuals.

WPATH does not define who transgender people are; it defines how the world should treat them ethically and competently.


IV. The Relational Turn: Seeing the Person, Not the Category

Policies and classifications may set conditions, but relationship is where dignity is either sustained or denied. For most transgender people, their most significant experiences are not in hospitals or government offices but in families, friend groups, workplaces, and communities.

Healthy, holistic relationship begins with:

  • Recognition: They are who they say they are.

  • Respect: Their name, pronouns, and dignity are honored.

  • Relational presence: They are treated not as problems to be solved but as people to be loved.


V. Family as the First Community

For transgender individuals, family acceptance is one of the strongest protective factors against depression, self-harm, and suicide. Conversely, rejection from family is one of the strongest predictors of harm.

A. Principles of Family Affirmation

  1. Listen first. Let your loved one define their experience, not your expectations.

  2. Use chosen names and pronouns consistently.

  3. Support access to gender-affirming care if desired.

  4. Respect privacy. Not everyone is “out” to everyone.

  5. Celebrate identity, do not hide it.

This is not about “agreeing with everything.” It’s about loving your child, sibling, parent, or relative for who they are, fully and without fear.

B. Spiritual and Cultural Tensions

Many families face faith or cultural conflicts around gender identity. Here, it’s helpful to distinguish between:

  • Core love (non-negotiable dignity of your family member), and

  • Doctrinal interpretation (which evolves over time).

Transgender identity does not destroy family bonds. Rejection does.


VI. Friendship and Social Belonging

Friends often provide the first safe spaces for transgender individuals to be known and experienced. Friendships do not require expertise — they require presence.

A. Practices of Good Friendship

  • Normalize, don’t exoticize. A transgender friend is not your “trans friend.” They are your friend.

  • Be a learner. If you don’t understand something, ask respectfully or educate yourself.

  • Show up. Attend events, support transitions, defend their dignity in absentia.

  • Hold space for change. Transition can involve evolving language, pronouns, or identities over time.

Good friendship is a practice of steady solidarity, not performance.


VII. Strangers, Institutions, and Public Life

Not all interactions are intimate. Many occur in schools, workplaces, churches, clinics, and civic spaces. Transgender people frequently navigate these spaces with vigilance because of past harm.

A. Everyday Respect from Strangers

  • Use inclusive language (“they” if unsure).

  • Don’t ask invasive questions (e.g., about surgeries or body parts).

  • Don’t out people.

  • Respect bathroom use and other rights.

  • Step up if you see harassment.

B. Institutional Responsibility

Workplaces, schools, and faith communities should:

  • Adopt non-discrimination policies.

  • Offer gender-neutral facilities where possible.

  • Provide training on pronouns, language, and respect.

  • Allow name and gender marker changes on forms.

  • Create cultures of belonging, not mere tolerance.

An institution that respects transgender dignity helps everyone breathe more freely.


VIII. Emotional and Cultural Intelligence

Healthy relationships require emotional maturity and cultural awareness.

Emotional SkillPracticeImpact
EmpathyListening to lived experienceBuilds trust
HumilityAdmitting what you don’t knowOpens learning
ReflexivityExamining your biasesReduces harm
AllyshipUsing your voice for equityShares social power

Transgender people are not obligated to educate everyone they meet. Those around them can learn to carry some of that work themselves.


IX. Faith, Philosophy, and Ethics: Expanding the Moral Imagination

Many people encounter transgender identity through the lens of their own brand of religious or moral tradition. This can often create tension, misrepresentation, and outright rejection. However, learn to see healthy possibility against these unhelpful projections:

Firstly, across faith traditions, there is a common moral thread that endures:

  • Love your neighbor as yourself.

  • Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

  • Honor the dignity of every person.

Transgender identity invites communities to expand their moral imagination — to see that human diversity is not a threat but a gift. Theology, philosophy, and ethics are not static; they are living conversations, as capable of growing as the people who hold them.


X. Legal Rights and Social Structures

Personal relationships can thrive in just social structures. Transgender dignity is easier to recognize and sustain when protected legally.

Key areas include:

  • Legal recognition of gender identity (name and marker changes).

  • Access to healthcare, including gender-affirming care.

  • Employment and housing protections.

  • Safe public accommodations (e.g., restrooms).

  • Freedom from harassment and violence.

WPATH SOC-8 and ICD-11 both underpin pertinent legal reforms in many countries, turning depathologization into policy and protection.


XI. A Holistic Vision of Community

Healthy communities are not built on sameness but on shared dignity across difference.

A holistic vision for communities engaging transgender persons includes:

  1. Education — dismantling myths and misinformation.

  2. Cultural fluency — understanding how gender varies globally and historically.

  3. Legal protections — creating safe civic ground.

  4. Relational hospitality — welcoming, not merely tolerating.

  5. Narrative participation — allowing transgender voices to shape the story of the community.

Where people feel safe to be themselves, positive communal trust and flourishing can grow.


XII. Intersections: Race, Disability, Class, and Trans Experience

Transgender experiences are not monolithic. They are shaped by other factors, including race, ethnicity, disability, class, and migration status.

  • Trans women of color face some of the highest rates of violence globally.

  • Economic marginalization compounds healthcare inequities.

  • Disabled transgender individuals often encounter both ableism and transphobia in healthcare systems.

  • Ableism is a system of beliefs, practices, and structures that discriminate against, devalue, or exclude people with disabilities — whether physical, sensory, cognitive, mental, or developmental.

  • Confronting ableism means building a society that values and includes every body and every mind as fully human.

Healthy, holistic relationship requires awareness of these intersecting forces. To support transgender people well is to see them fully.


XIII. Embodiment, Transition, and the Right to Change

Not every transgender person transitions, and not every transition looks the same. Some pursue social transition (names, pronouns, clothing), others medical transition (hormones, surgery), others both or neither.

The right to self-determination over one’s body is a core human right.

Respecting someone’s embodiment journey means:

  • Not questioning their choices.

  • Not measuring their “validity” by appearance or conformity.

  • Honoring their bodily autonomy as you would your own.


XIV. The Transformative Power of Encounter

Healthy relationships with transgender people are not only good for them — personal interactions often change those who offer respect.

Encountering transgender friends, family, or strangers:

  • Expands our understanding of what it means to be human.

  • Challenges rigid binaries that limit everyone.

  • Teaches us to live more gently with difference.

  • Builds a more just and imaginative moral community.

Transgender identity is not merely something to tolerate; it is a gift of perspective that reveals the depth and complexity of human becoming.


XV. Bridge Section: For Trans and Non-Trans Readers Alike

This essay has sought to speak not to one group alone, but to all of us who share this human landscape together. For transgender readers, may these words affirm your dignity, your right to live openly, and your worth as participants in shaping our collective future. For non-transgender readers, may these same words open your ears to listen, your hands to welcome, and your hearts to grow wide enough to hold difference without fear.

This is not a one-way conversation. Transgender and cisgender people alike are both subjects of the story and authors of what comes next. If anything enduring is to be built, it will be built together — in families that listen, friendships that hold, communities that learn, and institutions that dare to affirm.

Healthy, holistic relationship is not an ideal for the few. It is an invitation to us all.


XVI. Conclusion: Seeing with New Eyes

To live well with transgender people is to choose love over fear, dignity over debate, listening over silencing, and relationship over ideology.

“Affirming someone’s identity does not diminish yours — it enlarges the space where both can belong.”

DSM, ICD, and WPATH frameworks have ethically evolved to reflect what transgender people have always known: their identity is real, valid, and deeply human. But the truest transformation happens not on paper, but in relationship — in families who listen, friends who stand alongside, communities who learn to see, and strangers who choose kindness over contempt.

Healthy, holistic relationship is an act of hope: A hope that we can live together, not in spite of our differences, but because of them.


Appendix

Reader Guidance for Transgender and Non-Transgender Communities


I. To Transgender Readers

You are not a diagnosis.
You are not a debate.
You are not alone.

Your identity is part of the living human tapestry, ancient and enduring. The systems of medicine and law are catching up to truths you already know in your bones: that you deserve to live fully, freely, and safely. This essay affirms:

  • Your identity is valid — whether or not you transition, and whatever shape that transition takes.

  • Your right to dignity does not depend on convincing others of your worth.

  • Your story belongs to you, and you can offer it — or withhold it — as you choose.

  • Healthy communities exist and can be built around you.

May these words strengthen your sense of belonging, and remind you that your presence is not conditional, but intrinsic to the shared story of humanity.


II. To Non-Transgender Readers

The world you have inherited is already more diverse than the one you were taught to imagine. Transgender people are not “arriving” into your world — they’ve always been here. What is shifting is our collective willingness to see.

This essay is not meant to shame or accuse but to invite:

  • To learn without defensiveness, even when it unsettles you.

  • To honor names and pronouns, not as political statements but as acts of human respect.

  • To stand beside rather than over, practicing solidarity rather than silent neutrality.

  • To hold your faith, philosophy, or culture with enough elasticity to love more widely than you once thought possible.

The future of belonging depends on what we choose to do with what we now know.


III. Shared Ground

Although this appendix speaks to two audiences, its message is one:

  • That dignity belongs to everyone.

  • That relationships thrive in trust, not fear.

  • That no one must lose for others to be free.

  • That love is made visible in how we live with those who are different from ourselves.

There are no “sides” in human dignity. Only people. Only stories. Only the shared work of learning to live well together.


IV. Reflection & Discussion Prompts

These prompts can be used in personal journaling, group discussions, classrooms, faith settings, or community dialogues.

For Transgender Readers

  • What kinds of spaces make you feel most affirmed, and why?

  • How has your sense of belonging evolved over time?

  • Where do you most wish to see change in your immediate circles?

For Non-Transgender Readers

  • What assumptions about gender did you inherit, and how might they be reconsidered?

  • How can you use your position to reduce harm or increase safety for trans people?

  • Where might you need to listen more and speak less?

Shared

  • How might communities be transformed if every person were received as a full participant in human dignity?

  • What does mutual respect look like in your specific context — home, faith, school, workplace?


V. Final Words

This appendix is not an afterthought. It is a place of encounter — where understanding turns into practice, and practice turns into belonging.

Whether transgender or not, each of us has a role to play in this unfolding story.

To the transgender reader: Your being is not up for debate. You are already home in the human family.

To the non-transgender reader: Your openness can turn that truth from hope into reality.

“Where dignity is shared, community grows. Where fear is unlearned, friendship begins.”


📚 References & Further Reading

  • American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-5-TR). 2022.

  • World Health Organization. International Classification of Diseases, Eleventh Revision (ICD-11). 2022.

  • World Professional Association for Transgender Health. Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender and Gender Diverse People, Version 8. 2022.

  • PFLAG: https://pflag.org

  • National Center for Transgender Equality: https://transequality.org

  • WPATH: https://wpath.org

  • Julia Serano, *Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism