Quotes & Sayings


We, and creation itself, actualize the possibilities of the God who sustains the world, towards becoming in the world in a fuller, more deeper way. - R.E. Slater

There is urgency in coming to see the world as a web of interrelated processes of which we are integral parts, so that all of our choices and actions have [consequential effects upon] the world around us. - Process Metaphysician Alfred North Whitehead

Kurt Gödel's Incompleteness Theorem says (i) all closed systems are unprovable within themselves and, that (ii) all open systems are rightly understood as incomplete. - R.E. Slater

The most true thing about you is what God has said to you in Christ, "You are My Beloved." - Tripp Fuller

The God among us is the God who refuses to be God without us, so great is God's Love. - Tripp Fuller

According to some Christian outlooks we were made for another world. Perhaps, rather, we were made for this world to recreate, reclaim, redeem, and renew unto God's future aspiration by the power of His Spirit. - R.E. Slater

Our eschatological ethos is to love. To stand with those who are oppressed. To stand against those who are oppressing. It is that simple. Love is our only calling and Christian Hope. - R.E. Slater

Secularization theory has been massively falsified. We don't live in an age of secularity. We live in an age of explosive, pervasive religiosity... an age of religious pluralism. - Peter L. Berger

Exploring the edge of life and faith in a post-everything world. - Todd Littleton

I don't need another reason to believe, your love is all around for me to see. – Anon

Thou art our need; and in giving us more of thyself thou givest us all. - Khalil Gibran, Prayer XXIII

Be careful what you pretend to be. You become what you pretend to be. - Kurt Vonnegut

Religious beliefs, far from being primary, are often shaped and adjusted by our social goals. - Jim Forest

We become who we are by what we believe and can justify. - R.E. Slater

People, even more than things, need to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone. – Anon

Certainly, God's love has made fools of us all. - R.E. Slater

An apocalyptic Christian faith doesn't wait for Jesus to come, but for Jesus to become in our midst. - R.E. Slater

Christian belief in God begins with the cross and resurrection of Jesus, not with rational apologetics. - Eberhard Jüngel, Jürgen Moltmann

Our knowledge of God is through the 'I-Thou' encounter, not in finding God at the end of a syllogism or argument. There is a grave danger in any Christian treatment of God as an object. The God of Jesus Christ and Scripture is irreducibly subject and never made as an object, a force, a power, or a principle that can be manipulated. - Emil Brunner

“Ehyeh Asher Ehyeh” means "I will be that who I have yet to become." - God (Ex 3.14) or, conversely, “I AM who I AM Becoming.”

Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. - Thomas Merton

The church is God's world-changing social experiment of bringing unlikes and differents to the Eucharist/Communion table to share life with one another as a new kind of family. When this happens, we show to the world what love, justice, peace, reconciliation, and life together is designed by God to be. The church is God's show-and-tell for the world to see how God wants us to live as a blended, global, polypluralistic family united with one will, by one Lord, and baptized by one Spirit. – Anon

The cross that is planted at the heart of the history of the world cannot be uprooted. - Jacques Ellul

The Unity in whose loving presence the universe unfolds is inside each person as a call to welcome the stranger, protect animals and the earth, respect the dignity of each person, think new thoughts, and help bring about ecological civilizations. - John Cobb & Farhan A. Shah

If you board the wrong train it is of no use running along the corridors of the train in the other direction. - Dietrich Bonhoeffer

God's justice is restorative rather than punitive; His discipline is merciful rather than punishing; His power is made perfect in weakness; and His grace is sufficient for all. – Anon

Our little [biblical] systems have their day; they have their day and cease to be. They are but broken lights of Thee, and Thou, O God art more than they. - Alfred Lord Tennyson

We can’t control God; God is uncontrollable. God can’t control us; God’s love is uncontrolling! - Thomas Jay Oord

Life in perspective but always in process... as we are relational beings in process to one another, so life events are in process in relation to each event... as God is to Self, is to world, is to us... like Father, like sons and daughters, like events... life in process yet always in perspective. - R.E. Slater

To promote societal transition to sustainable ways of living and a global society founded on a shared ethical framework which includes respect and care for the community of life, ecological integrity, universal human rights, respect for diversity, economic justice, democracy, and a culture of peace. - The Earth Charter Mission Statement

Christian humanism is the belief that human freedom, individual conscience, and unencumbered rational inquiry are compatible with the practice of Christianity or even intrinsic in its doctrine. It represents a philosophical union of Christian faith and classical humanist principles. - Scott Postma

It is never wise to have a self-appointed religious institution determine a nation's moral code. The opportunities for moral compromise and failure are high; the moral codes and creeds assuredly racist, discriminatory, or subjectively and religiously defined; and the pronouncement of inhumanitarian political objectives quite predictable. - R.E. Slater

God's love must both center and define the Christian faith and all religious or human faiths seeking human and ecological balance in worlds of subtraction, harm, tragedy, and evil. - R.E. Slater

In Whitehead’s process ontology, we can think of the experiential ground of reality as an eternal pulse whereby what is objectively public in one moment becomes subjectively prehended in the next, and whereby the subject that emerges from its feelings then perishes into public expression as an object (or “superject”) aiming for novelty. There is a rhythm of Being between object and subject, not an ontological division. This rhythm powers the creative growth of the universe from one occasion of experience to the next. This is the Whiteheadian mantra: “The many become one and are increased by one.” - Matthew Segall

Without Love there is no Truth. And True Truth is always Loving. There is no dichotomy between these terms but only seamless integration. This is the premier centering focus of a Processual Theology of Love. - R.E. Slater

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Note: Generally I do not respond to commentary. I may read the comments but wish to reserve my time to write (or write from the comments I read). Instead, I'd like to see our community help one another and in the helping encourage and exhort each of us towards Christian love in Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior. - re slater

Showing posts with label Gender Roles - Beauty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gender Roles - Beauty. Show all posts

Sunday, November 13, 2022

What are "Furries" and "Fursonas?" (Autoethnographies on Relationships)



Furries and Fursonas

by R.E. Slater
November 13, 2022

Recently the subject of "Furry" trans-people as arisen in Christian circles - although I'm sure I'm the last one to have heard of this social event, my engagement was less-than-satisfactory with fellow Christians who were running on high red-alert in their own wild mis-assessments on this same issue.

So, I'd like to state for the record my own non-professional Christian perspectives on this hot button issue that many are blowing up out-of-proportion to what they think is there.


A Public Over-Reaction

Yes, in some very small or rare instances within the trans community there are a few overt personal behaviors being observed who are calling themselves "furries"  as acts of healthy, self-healing with other similar souls - some of whom may be a trans-person, and some of whom may be deeply conflicted beyond the mere misunderstanding by the general public of what gender "lostness" can mean to those conflicted in their souls who sometimes portray themselves through a custome instead of by some other means like "drag-dressing styles."

Further, my comments here will be to approach this subject as more than an anime type "fan in a furry suit" or in "steampunk" or "medieval" or even as "civil war" re-enactors. I wish to approach the subject of "trans-furries" from more of a psychological / sociological viewpoint. But be aware that this may only apply to those rare few within the furry community (whether trans- or not) by which my sentiments might be helpfully applied to the more general "furry" population who are healthily normal and seeking fellowship not unlike other like-souled individuals when dressing up a movie re-enactors or the more common sports fans we observe on weekends.


What is Gender Lostness?
 
Transgenders are caught in a no man's land re sexual identity. One way to understand this community in their conflicts for personal identity has been through a very small trend where some few are exploring gender identity by "wearing" gender neutral personas which may provide emotional, mental, or even soul neutrality.

Rather than condemning these "persona-actors" as sin and evil consider these social behaviors as perhaps showing a form of emotional instability via aberrant social behavior whereby a "fursona" might sort out conflicted states of conformity within a gender safe, neutral environment while searching out more deeply held feelings of one's inner self.

Secondly, to those of us on the outside of a trans-gender's inner psycho-social conflicts, we may rightly feel distraught, unnerved, or adverse to any personal or public confrontations with "trans-explorers" as they confront our own personal senses of psycho-social behaviors and self-identity in public displays of decoherence.

My suggestion to you is to go with the flow with as little judgment or confrontation as possible. Your conflict, if externalized to a trans undergoing self-questioning, most likely won't help them - though it will very often provide to them their own justified feelings of self-conflict which they seek to "trans-cend". More likely you will be causing greater self-confirmation to an already dissettled persona in deep conflict with deeply turbulent life feelings and experiences in self-projected, or anticipated, environments of rejection by our many reactionary forms.

Therefore, it is critically important for us - as a non-trans, gender-confirming society - to accept and assist conflicted souls during their times of exploration... not to be judgmental, brutal, bullying, or harmful.


Final Words

To my Christian brothers and sisters, many of us live within our sheltered thoughts of a socio-religious gender conformity which grants an extremely low tolerance for other-difference. Especially when confronting socio-behavioral aberrancy. However, be the one individual in your community to show compassion and consideration to transgender souls who are actively choosing neither a male or female persona.... And remember, these personas are highly different than a bi-sexual's personal perception of themselves.

Finally, the world holds a lot of brokenness to the harms it has brought upon itself over the ages of socio-religious and political civilization development in community with one another. Every living person struggles with something within themselves, their home, their family, their friends and cohorts. There is no "perfect" Eden out there. Racism, hate, bullying, et al, has created wave upon wave of evil in this world. Try not to add to our common social experiences of rejection and brutality. None of us is God. Nor does God need to be "defended" by you, your church, or your beliefs. What God really needs is our responses to love. It is the most highly desired quality in a world of everywhere brokenness. Be love to one another. Be a safe space for healing. Be unlike ourselves and become scented balms of reciprocating fellowships of loving engagement, embrace, and energy.

Blessings,

R.E. Slater
November 13, 2022

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The use of a "fursona" to explore gender is useful in many ways, including being risk-free in terms of internal discomfort as well as externally. These findings may be significant for people who are looking for a safe way to explore their relationship with their gender.

USI 2020 Honors Symposium - Gender Identity and Fursonas

"A Furry Friend: An Autoethnography on the Relationship
Between Gender Identity and Fursonas."


Abstract

Transgender people identify as a gender other than the one assigned to them at birth, whether this is male, female, or something else entirely. Furries are people who have an interest in anthropomorphic animals, and many have a “fursona”, or an animal representation of the self. Furries often use fursonas to reflect a sexual or gender identity. LGBT+ people are a majority in the furry fandom, and there are more transgender people than in the general population [of self-identified fursonas].

Given that transgender people are more common in the furry community, research looking into the relationship between gender development and furry identity could yield interesting insights. The following project is an autoethnography done by a trans man who is a furry. His previous and current fursonas were dated and redrawn. Then, these "fursonas" were analyzed based on appearance and the author’s life events at the time, with a focus on his relationship to his gender. The analysis indicates that, not only did his fursonas change with his gender, but that the fursonas themselves were used as a tool for gender exploration. The use of a fursona to explore gender was useful in many ways, including it being risk-free in terms of internal discomfort as well as externally. These findings may be significant for people who are looking for a safe way to explore their relationship with their gender.

https://www.furaffinity.net/view/8556190/


My fursonas over time
By Sizz, posted 10 years ago Art Whore

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

In which I promise not to call myself fat


Sarah
June 26, 2011

Dear Anne and Evelynn,... Here are the lies, my dears:

You are only as good as you look.
You are only lovable if you have a rock hard body.
You can conquer your feelings of inadequacy by being skinny.
Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.
Everyone judges you by how you look and talks about you behind your back.
Beautiful is defined by your culture (and so it is beautiful to be frightfully skinny with bolted-on boobs and an identi-kit face).
You are not worthy of love if you are not beautiful.



I'm raising you in a world that thinks you're only as good as you look. And you're being raised by a woman who is still overcoming these lies herself.

The other day, I did an exercise video at home. You were with me, Annie, while the two littles slept and we leaped and kicked our way through jumping-jacks together. "Oh, Mum!" you glowed, "Even your tummy is having fun! Look at it jumping around!" and for a moment, oh, it stung.

I just gave birth to Evelynn two months ago and so yes, my tummy is "jumping around" when I jump around and part of me wanted to sit down and cry for the sudden cacophony of worthlessness and shame that rose up but then you were there. You were there, looking up at me, having fun exercising and I thought, no. No, I will not cry about how I look in front of you. Instead I told you that this was fantastic and yes, my tummy was having a marvellous time. When you asked me why we were exercising, I had to lock my lips tight against the "to lose weight because I'm fat because I just had a baby" that threatened to spill out and instead spoke of having fun exercising for energy and playing together to be healthy and strong and hey, later, did you want to go bike riding?

I am looking for the small ways to spare you just a few battles of body-image that seems to strangle and entangle so many of us in the war against women. Like the girls that post their supper every night on Facebook for "accountability" and the ones that over-exercise to punish their own bodies. The ones that starve themselves and so carve their own flesh with the word "Forgotten" and "Invisible." Like the ones that are apologetic to their husbands because they have a body marked by childbirth. The ones that are terrified of aging. The ones that feel like they are never, no, never not keenly aware of how they look or what they ate or what they will be eating, the ones chained to a scale or a number or a glossy Photoshopped-ideal.

Sure, I will talk and teach and train but I am learning this: you will sing my songs.

And so I will sing a song of wonder and beauty about womanhood for you to learn from my lips.

I will lead the resistance of these lies in our home by living out a better truth.

I will not criticise my sisters for how they look or live, casting uncharitable words like stones, because my words of criticism or judgement have a strange way of being more boomerang than missile, swinging around to lodge in your own hearts.

I'll wear a bathing suit and I won't tug on it self-consciously. I will get my hair wet.

I will easily change my clothes in front of your Dad, proud of my stretch marks that gave us a family, of breasts that nourished his babies.

I will prove to you that you can be a size 12 and still be sexier than hell.

I will prove to you that you don't have to be all angles and corners, that there is room for some softness because you all love to hug on my soft bits, burrowing into my arms and my breasts to rest for a while.

I will eat dessert and raise my glass and laugh my way to deeper smile lines.

I will celebrate your own beauty, my tall girls, but I will do my best to praise your mind, your heart, your motives as much as I praise your beauty.

I will not let the words "I'm fat" cross my lips - especially in front of you, my beautiful girls.

I will celebrate beauty where I find it, in a million faces uniquely handcrafted by a generous God with a big tent of glorious womanhood.

I will tell stories of women and surround you with a community of women who are smart and strong, crazy and hot-headed, gentle and kind, women who love and you will see that this is what is beautiful, that a generous love is the most gorgeous thing you could ever put on.

I love you.

Mummy

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